Before 2018, Let’s do some reflectiion! So, just a few days until 2018 is here? Okay, my mind is still trying to accept that. I am not the only one, or am I?
Hey guys, how are you? I believe you are having a great week. I have been quite busy, but that should never be an excuse for not posting this last week!
Having said that, let’s get started. We all know that 2018 is days away. And I have mixed feelings about all this, not that I will be a year younger and that I am scared (maybe that as well, but who is counting?) 🙂 😉 it is just that I am not sure where I am at with my life. There is so much that doesn’t sit well with me, so that scares me and I hate it when I am scared.
So, my smart and clever self-had to come to play and gave me a few ideas of what I need to do to get my life together before 2018 kicks off and since I am kind and I care about you I will share them with you. And here you go:
Probably this is very obvious, but hear me out. Reflecting on your life is so important and this does not have to wait until you know you have messed everything up like I have, this has to be an everyday practice. You must give a serious thought about your actions, how you react to things or people and how everything that you do reflect on the person you want to be.
I tried doing this early this year, like I would reflect on my day every night before bed. Ask myself some tough questions like what did I do better, what didn’t go so well and what can I improve. I would even reflect on how I treat people, we can’t be perfect all the time. We sometimes treat people badly, not because but because you were angry or in bad mood, still that is not an excuse to be a jerk! When you reflect on your behaviours is very easy to change them by asking questions like “how could I have handled the situation better”?
When you ask yourself that it is very easy to change that habit. Reflect on how your habits and actions influence people around you. Are you influencing them positively or negatively? If it positively then do more of those and improve a few things on that front and if it is negative then you know what to do, change that thing!
While you reflect on how you treat people, also take some time to reflect on how people treat you and what kind of influence they have in your life. People that are close to us have an impact on us in many ways and sometimes they might be holding you back because they are way too negative and they have a problem with everything that you do, my question is why the hell are you still keeping that person in your life? It is time to wave goodbye because life is too short to waste it on people who don’t have any contribution to your growth and where you are headed.
I can take days explaining why reflecting on your life is so important, but let’s save everybody’s time and simply end there. But the bottom line is: ask yourself tough questions about relationships, work, money, health, well everything about your life. Give honest answers to those questions and take actions to make sure you become the person you want to become and stick to that, at least that’s what I am going to do.
Every time you are done with reflecting, do yourself a favour and ‘declutter’! Get rid of everything that is not doing you any favour, negativity, negative people, get rid of relationships that are holding you back and charge ahead by clapping for people who are clapping for you and help you grow to become a better version of yourself.
Did I just write the whole post on one point? 🙂 Boy, I get carried away sometimes when I speak, I mean write on things that I believe in!
As I talked about this here, there is no way you can achieve anything if you have no idea what you want to achieve in the first place! So, take that notebook/diary or anything really that you can write what you want to do. In this goal list/to do list start with most important things that you must do and finish up with less important things. Be sure to start small, go step by step and you finish a task.
Planning doesn’t need to happen only when you are creating your end of the year resolution or whatever you call that. You must plan and set goals yearly, monthly, weekly, daily and hourly! Time is the most precious commodity there is in this life and we waste so much of it when we don’t know what we need to do with our lives.
As Alan Lakein put it; failing to plan is planning to fail. I totally agree with this, because if you have no idea where you want to get by the end of the day, week, month, year then you are more likely to go with any road because it doesn’t matter where you will end up! Nobody wants this life, at least not me! Plan and set S.M.A.R.T goals and be efficient and effective.
Planning, priorities and goal setting sound so easy to do but trust me none of this is as easy as they sound! You must be disciplined enough to commit yourself to doing what you say you are going to do. You must push yourself to do more and be more.
So, I will have plans and goals for every hour, day, week, month and year of my life and that will be directing my every step and along the way, I will keep repeating my first point. REFLECT and I will stop PROCRASTINATING!
I wrote a whole post about this here. Comfort zones are accused to be holding us back from doing the things that we would do if we were ready to step out and experience some new challenges and see how the outside world operates.
Every success happens out of your comfort zone.
Out of your comfort zone is where every magic happens. It is only out of your comfort zone where you will have a chance to grow by taking risks and going for what you want in life. Out there is where you will be able to push yourself enough to go for what you believe you are capable of achieving.
Comfort zone is calm, beautiful and relaxing but nothing remarkable will ever happen there. Your comfort zone plays a number of tricks on you by making you believe that you are safe there and happy, but where is the fun in life if you play it safe? Take some adventure go see the world, fail along the way and learn!
If you want to read more about why it is so important to step out of your comfort zone, go and read this. Thank me later.
4. Forgive, LEARN and forget
Who here is still mad at someone for something they did wrong in 1990? If you are one of those people, please get a life because I am not sure if you have one! Getting your life together means forgetting the past, you are starting afresh. You just opened a new page, why would you want to write the same sh*t from the previous pages? It doesn’t make sense, right?
So, forgive yourself, learn from your mistakes, make a commitment that you will never do the same mistake again, forget about them, and if you want to remember them should only be for the sake of taking some lesson you might use to improve yourself. And for the people who wronged you? Forgive them, learn from how they made you feel and don’t allow them or others to make you feel that way again. You know, not forgiving them will only holding back because they still have the power over how you feel about what they did to you but once you forgive them you take the power back.
You have a choice to make here, I made mine. I will forgive, learn and forget – maybe not entirely but I will try.
5. Stay healthy
None of the 4 mentioned points will matter if your health is poor! You must take care of yourself – your body, mind and soul! All of these three must work as a team for you to get your life together. None of it will matter if you will unhappy or sick.
Adopt some health habits if you haven’t. Make sure you eat healthily, drink enough water and exercise at least 4 times a week. I always try to stay healthy all the time even though we all know how hard it can be. I work out 3 times a week which I still think it is not enough. We all know how busy life is, but make some time to go for a walk, drink more water, drink some green tea daily and other things that you think can help you stay healthy.
Guard your heart and soul by staying positive, stress-free; read some good books, meditate/pray. I mean do anything that will help your soul to stay in peace all the time, you can’t afford it otherwise.
After all, been said and done it all comes down to how you feel about yourself. Are you happy with your life? Is this how you want your life to be? If not, what can you change? Then change it. Is there something you don’t like but you can’t change it? Accept it and be content with it. Does what you do make you happy? If yes, then do more of that if not find ways to change it, improve it or accept it.
Fall in love with yourself, love the life you are creating…enjoy every bit of it…Love the people around you…cherish your loved ones… 🙂 <3 try new things every now and then….if you are not happy with what you are doing you might as well stop doing it. Have some fun and laugh at your own mistake and grow from them. 🙂
To getting our lives together, what are you doing to make sure your life is in order when 2018 starts? Share in the comments below, let’s talk. 🙂
Happy holidays, until next time,