Honestly, I wouldn’t call myself wiser, but for the sake of #BirthdayGirl we should let it slide. (A girl can dream) 😉 #BirthdayGirl because it is still #BirthdayWeek. I know there is no such a thing but roll with it!
So, my birthday was on 31/08, where are my Virgo squad at? And yes, I believe in those things. I think they do make sense and sometimes they really tell the truth, let’s give them some credits. So, if you believe in them, you might as well be able to tell what kind of a person I am. If not, then that is a story for another time.
Well, twenty something is not a joke. So along the way I have gathered some lessons that have shaped me to be whom I am and they will continue to shape me. I will keep learning and unlearning because learning is an endless process and I am always ready to learn and unlearn. Hey, I am not perfect, I am actually very far from it and that is okay.
So, allow me to share with you some few lessons I have learned and still learning. You might agree with some of them and you might disagree with some and that’s okay. So, here we go:
1. Family comes first
Ok, this might be so obvious but hear me out. When we were born first thing that was given to us is family. And family stick with us from birth to death, to me that is something to be grateful for. No matter what happens in your life, these are your people and they will always stand by you even when the whole world is against you.
Ok, I know we may fight, don’t talk for some time but in the end, they will stick with you no matter what. For me my family has been and will always be family, your family will always be there for you even when you are not there for yourself. They believe in you, love you, and they won’t give up on you. They may not say or show it quite as much as you would like them to but deep down they are always rooting for you.
2. People come and go
This might be the hardest lesson to grasp but it is nothing but the truth. Do you remember how many people used to be your friends and now you have no idea where they are, what they do and you don’t even remember their names even if you tried? When some people leave it hurts the most and some it doesn’t hurt, but either way, you have to let them go.
They left because they couldn’t handle your positive vibes or the other way, it doesn’t mean they are bad people it just means they didn’t want to stay, still let them go and appreciate those who stick by you. Know when to hold on and when to let go.
You can’t please everyone, you won’t be liked by everyone and that’s okay, live your life and remember that it is okay to be different.
3. A grateful heart is a happy heart
This is a lesson I learned at a very early age. And it has been my way of life ever since. I learned this from my mother. She is always grateful no matter what is happening in her life she will always say, ”it is God’s plan and I am grateful”. I didn’t understand her logic until now, the thing is, no matter how hard things are in your life there is always something to be grateful for.
Even the smallest things are worth being grateful for and once you are able to find things to be grateful for every single day then you will realize how blessed you are and for that, you will be happy.
Appreciate the simple things, they carry loads of meaning and they might be the very things that make you a happy person.
4. Life is a series of seasons
Nothing is permanent in this life. Your life itself has an end. That is nothing but the way of life. I remember at the end of last year and the beginning of this year was a very low part of my life. Things didn’t go as planned, I had no idea what will happen next and how I am going to get through it or let alone getting through the day, yes it was that bad. But here I am, 7 months later and I haven’t figured everything out but now it is a different story.
So, no matter what season you are in right now, it will come to an end and a new season will come. You have to understand everything comes and goes, just like people. You might have no idea what you are doing with your life now but in time you will look back and ‘it was just a season’ and life will go on!
5. Be a nice person, for no reason
I know it is such a cliché, but hear me out. I know there are a lot of crappy people in the world and they can totally ruin your vibes but you have to take the high road and be a bigger person. I have learned that people who treat you badly don’t necessarily mean they are bad people, it just means they are probably having things that they going through or they are just crappy people.
Don’t let that bother you and change who you are and try to fight them, they will surely beat you because they are experienced than you are at being low and that will ruin your inner peace. Let them be, let it go and continue to be a nice person but be sure to remember your worth. Don’t criticize them for their bad behaviors but rather acknowledge their good behaviors and you are more likely to help them that way.
6. Money is important but it is not everything
I stand to be corrected on this, but for me, money is important but it is not everything there is in life. There are far more valuable things that money will never buy. Things like happiness, true relationships, kindness or a good heart.
I know you will argue with me that money can buy things that can make you happy, yes that is true. But the funny thing is that you will be happy for a while and then your unsatisfied heart will desire for something else.
Some people will pretend to be your best friends just because you have money. Hell, someone will marry you or be with you simply because there is money involved! And there is nothing real about that.
7. Start where you are with what you have
We sometimes get stuck somewhere because we have a number of excuses of why we can’t start doing something that we say we want to do, with a bunch of excuses that we don’t have this or that to start. Take an example of my blog, I had this idea of launching my blog ever since I can remember but I didn’t until two months ago. I was putting this off because I didn’t have a camera, then I was scared, yes there is always that fear! Maybe it won’t work, well how would you know if you don’t try?
Give it a try, work hard and then later you can say it didn’t work. But tell you what? Hard work pays, big time! Find what you are passionate about, love it, invest yourself in it, work hard and let the universe see you, I promise it will reward you. Trust me, like attracts like. You get what you give – Law of attraction reference
Get out of your comfort zone, take risks and be your best version
8. PMA – Positive Mental Attitude
This is quite important for anyone hoping to live a happy life. PMA will help you conquer some hardship in your life. It will help you to be a nice person even when people give you all the reasons not to be.
This kind of attitude has helped to have hopes even when I know something won’t work out and sometimes they do sometimes they don’t.
You know you get in life what you expect and you become what you think. Here is where this attitude comes in handy. If you think you will succeed at something and you make efforts then that’s exactly what you will get. Like attracts like – yes, Law of attraction reference – again, this should give you a clue that I believe in it 😉
9. Never stop learning
Yes, never say never but let’s forget that for a moment “never stop learning”. Learning is a process. Going to school is not the only learning there is. Learn from your environment, learn from you meet every single day and learn from everything you see, you will be surprised by how much there is to learn.
Everybody and everything have something to teach. It might be something you want to do or something you would want to do. Learn from your mistakes, allow them to teach you and help you become a better person.
Read books, essays, articles and everything else that you believe might teach you something. There is so much knowledge in these things, book especially for me. I get to use someone else’s mind for a moment and improve myself. Ever since I decided to invest in myself by learning, I never looked back. I am a better person because of it. So yeah, never stop learning.
10. The most powerful and the weakest thing in your life is YOU
If it is one thing one we all have control with, it is ourselves! You don’t have control to your husband/wife, girlfriend/boyfriend, and weather, how people live their lives or their behaviors. Hell, you don’t have control over anything but yourself!
You can control how you react to what people do to you. You can control who you allow into your life, yes you have that power and it is very liberating to know that! You are very powerful, and that’s why I said you have to learn to let people go because you don’t have any control over them! You can simply control how you react to their leaving and not otherwise.
You can live whatever kind of life you choose for yourself. There is so much you can do with your life once you realize the power you hold. Don’t forget the weakness that you have! You can hold yourself down or you can push yourself to do better.
Don’t ever find a person to blame when things go wrong! Take responsibility for your actions. Look back, see what you did wrong if you can’t change it then learn from it and be sure not to repeat the same mistake again!
You are the most powerful and the weakest weapon you have, embrace who you are and take care of yourself.
Love yourself and forgive yourself but never blame others for your shortcoming. We only get one life, we might as well live it and enjoy it to the fullest. Work hard, stay humble, be grateful and be a nice person, always.
Well loves, there you have it… a lot of lessons but these are on my top 10. I hope they help you in one way or the other.
Happy birthday to me, yey!
Until next time,