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How you Think Determines The Outcome of Your Life

September 12, 2017
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“You are what you think” I have been reading and hearing about this all my life, ok, maybe not all my life but many times 😉 I have read about it countless on The Secret a book by Rhonda Byrnes. If you haven’t read it or watched the movie then please do.

If you think you don’t have time to read, have a look here on how I find my reading time.

I have come to believe that this is some kind of a universal law. I have become a believer and a follower of this.

I believe that people create their own realities every single day in their lives. Everything that is happening in our lives is the products of our own thoughts and actions.

You are probably wondering how I happened to believe this, yeah I wondered about this myself many times. But one day I had to sit down and really reflect on my thoughts. I started asking myself; what is it that I thought about many times in the past few years? What is it that I wanted so much to happen in my life?

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You guessed it, I wanted everything that I am today, yap everything. Okay, still working on many of them but getting there. I know it can be hard to believe sometimes but that is a reality. I wanted so much to be a blogger, I wanted so much to be a writer and I still want much more.

Our realities are created by our own minds, either you believe it or not. The bible itself says “as a man thinketh so he becomes” you become what you think. Every thought that comes to your mind and dwells in there for a long time, accompanied by your faith and your belief that’s how your reality is being created.

Get this, how many times you tell yourself you are going to fail at something, you think about it so much that you believe it and it turns out you fail and you complain about how much you know you are going to fail in the first place? Yes, you created that failure yourself, in your mind. So you shouldn’t be complaining, you should be thanking yourself for inviting failure.

This is true to people who succeed in life. These people are no different from you. The only difference is that they think different thought from yours. These people think success, believe success and their thoughts become their realities.

Then if this is how things go in the universe why are we creating our own misery every single day and we keep complaining why everything that we don’t want to keep happening to us? Well, you know the answer to that, we keep thinking about things that we don’t want, we complain about things we don’t want, we believe in them and manifest in our lives.

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Our minds are the workshop of everything, our minds are the engineers of our lives, and either we want or not! This is one of the powerful gifts we have been given by the creator of the heavens and earth. If we work toward mastering even 10% of our minds, then our lives will be a different story of its own.

What if we change how we think even for a second, what if we change what we believe and see what miracles can happen in our lives. We create who we are and what we are through our minds. Let us learn to control them and we will control everything about our lives.

You don’t have to agree with me, but why not give it a try? You have nothing to lose anyways. Just try and be positive for an hour and see how different your life can be. Then from there, you can decide if being positive, changing how you think is something worth doing, then go ahead and do it and if not, by all means, be my guest.

Until next time,
Jane 🙂

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Twenty something | aging gracefully and getting wiser

September 5, 2017
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Honestly, I wouldn’t call myself wiser, but for the sake of #BirthdayGirl we should let it slide. (A girl can dream) 😉 #BirthdayGirl because it is still #BirthdayWeek. I know there is no such a thing but roll with it!

So, my birthday was on 31/08, where are my Virgo squad at? And yes, I believe in those things. I think they do make sense and sometimes they really tell the truth, let’s give them some credits. So, if you believe in them, you might as well be able to tell what kind of a person I am. If not, then that is a story for another time.

Well, twenty something is not a joke. So along the way I have gathered some lessons that have shaped me to be whom I am and they will continue to shape me. I will keep learning and unlearning because learning is an endless process and I am always ready to learn and unlearn. Hey, I am not perfect, I am actually very far from it and that is okay.

So, allow me to share with you some few lessons I have learned and still learning. You might agree with some of them and you might disagree with some and that’s okay. So, here we go:

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1. Family comes first

Ok, this might be so obvious but hear me out. When we were born first thing that was given to us is family. And family stick with us from birth to death, to me that is something to be grateful for. No matter what happens in your life, these are your people and they will always stand by you even when the whole world is against you.

Ok, I know we may fight, don’t talk for some time but in the end, they will stick with you no matter what. For me my family has been and will always be family, your family will always be there for you even when you are not there for yourself. They believe in you, love you, and they won’t give up on you. They may not say or show it quite as much as you would like them to but deep down they are always rooting for you.

2. People come and go

This might be the hardest lesson to grasp but it is nothing but the truth. Do you remember how many people used to be your friends and now you have no idea where they are, what they do and you don’t even remember their names even if you tried? When some people leave it hurts the most and some it doesn’t hurt, but either way, you have to let them go.

They left because they couldn’t handle your positive vibes or the other way, it doesn’t mean they are bad people it just means they didn’t want to stay, still let them go and appreciate those who stick by you. Know when to hold on and when to let go.

You can’t please everyone, you won’t be liked by everyone and that’s okay, live your life and remember that it is okay to be different.

3. A grateful heart is a happy heart

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This is a lesson I learned at a very early age. And it has been my way of life ever since. I learned this from my mother. She is always grateful no matter what is happening in her life she will always say, ”it is God’s plan and I am grateful”. I didn’t understand her logic until now, the thing is, no matter how hard things are in your life there is always something to be grateful for.

Even the smallest things are worth being grateful for and once you are able to find things to be grateful for every single day then you will realize how blessed you are and for that, you will be happy.

Appreciate the simple things, they carry loads of meaning and they might be the very things that make you a happy person.

4. Life is a series of seasons

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Nothing is permanent in this life. Your life itself has an end. That is nothing but the way of life. I remember at the end of last year and the beginning of this year was a very low part of my life. Things didn’t go as planned, I had no idea what will happen next and how I am going to get through it or let alone getting through the day, yes it was that bad. But here I am, 7 months later and I haven’t figured everything out but now it is a different story.

So, no matter what season you are in right now, it will come to an end and a new season will come. You have to understand everything comes and goes, just like people. You might have no idea what you are doing with your life now but in time you will look back and ‘it was just a season’ and life will go on!

5. Be a nice person, for no reason

I know it is such a cliché, but hear me out. I know there are a lot of crappy people in the world and they can totally ruin your vibes but you have to take the high road and be a bigger person. I have learned that people who treat you badly don’t necessarily mean they are bad people, it just means they are probably having things that they going through or they are just crappy people.

Don’t let that bother you and change who you are and try to fight them, they will surely beat you because they are experienced than you are at being low and that will ruin your inner peace. Let them be, let it go and continue to be a nice person but be sure to remember your worth. Don’t criticize them for their bad behaviors but rather acknowledge their good behaviors and you are more likely to help them that way.

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6. Money is important but it is not everything

I stand to be corrected on this, but for me, money is important but it is not everything there is in life. There are far more valuable things that money will never buy. Things like happiness, true relationships, kindness or a good heart.

I know you will argue with me that money can buy things that can make you happy, yes that is true. But the funny thing is that you will be happy for a while and then your unsatisfied heart will desire for something else.

Some people will pretend to be your best friends just because you have money. Hell, someone will marry you or be with you simply because there is money involved! And there is nothing real about that.

7. Start where you are with what you have

We sometimes get stuck somewhere because we have a number of excuses of why we can’t start doing something that we say we want to do, with a bunch of excuses that we don’t have this or that to start. Take an example of my blog, I had this idea of launching my blog ever since I can remember but I didn’t until two months ago. I was putting this off because I didn’t have a camera, then I was scared, yes there is always that fear! Maybe it won’t work, well how would you know if you don’t try?

Give it a try, work hard and then later you can say it didn’t work. But tell you what? Hard work pays, big time! Find what you are passionate about, love it, invest yourself in it, work hard and let the universe see you, I promise it will reward you. Trust me, like attracts like. You get what you give – Law of attraction reference

Get out of your comfort zone, take risks and be your best version

8. PMA – Positive Mental Attitude

This is quite important for anyone hoping to live a happy life. PMA will help you conquer some hardship in your life. It will help you to be a nice person even when people give you all the reasons not to be.

This kind of attitude has helped to have hopes even when I know something won’t work out and sometimes they do sometimes they don’t.
You know you get in life what you expect and you become what you think. Here is where this attitude comes in handy. If you think you will succeed at something and you make efforts then that’s exactly what you will get. Like attracts like – yes, Law of attraction reference – again, this should give you a clue that I believe in it 😉

9. Never stop learning

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Yes, never say never but let’s forget that for a moment “never stop learning”. Learning is a process. Going to school is not the only learning there is. Learn from your environment, learn from you meet every single day and learn from everything you see, you will be surprised by how much there is to learn.

Everybody and everything have something to teach. It might be something you want to do or something you would want to do. Learn from your mistakes, allow them to teach you and help you become a better person.

Read books, essays, articles and everything else that you believe might teach you something. There is so much knowledge in these things, book especially for me. I get to use someone else’s mind for a moment and improve myself. Ever since I decided to invest in myself by learning, I never looked back. I am a better person because of it. So yeah, never stop learning.

10. The most powerful and the weakest thing in your life is YOU

If it is one thing one we all have control with, it is ourselves! You don’t have control to your husband/wife, girlfriend/boyfriend, and weather, how people live their lives or their behaviors. Hell, you don’t have control over anything but yourself!

You can control how you react to what people do to you. You can control who you allow into your life, yes you have that power and it is very liberating to know that! You are very powerful, and that’s why I said you have to learn to let people go because you don’t have any control over them! You can simply control how you react to their leaving and not otherwise.

You can live whatever kind of life you choose for yourself. There is so much you can do with your life once you realize the power you hold. Don’t forget the weakness that you have! You can hold yourself down or you can push yourself to do better.

Don’t ever find a person to blame when things go wrong! Take responsibility for your actions. Look back, see what you did wrong if you can’t change it then learn from it and be sure not to repeat the same mistake again!

You are the most powerful and the weakest weapon you have, embrace who you are and take care of yourself.

Love yourself and forgive yourself but never blame others for your shortcoming. We only get one life, we might as well live it and enjoy it to the fullest. Work hard, stay humble, be grateful and be a nice person, always.

Well loves, there you have it… a lot of lessons but these are on my top 10. I hope they help you in one way or the other.

Happy birthday to me, yey!

Until next time,
JS 🙂

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Hold On, This Too Shall Pass | Motivation

September 3, 2017
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Happy Sunday, everyone. I hope ya’all are having a great weekend.

In life we all pass through tough and frustrating times, some of these tough times are under our control and some of them are not of our making. There is this saying “everything happens for a reason” and I happen to be a huge believer of it.

Though sometimes we all wish to know those reasons, but hey, we both know we can’t stand those reasons because they might hurt us than we can ever imagine! And that’s the major reason why God never give a reason to why everything happens.

As he says in the holy bible Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace not of evil, to give you an expected end” with his words, we all are assured that God doesn’t plan things to go wrong to us, all these happen to make us stronger and prepare for the best things he has in store for us as God’s timing is always perfect.

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We always worry and fear of our lives; we think too hard of what will happen tomorrow, what will be of us if all these don’t pass! We forget that God is always holding our hands and bless the good and the evil, the just and the unjust. Sometimes people do bad things to us, make us sad, cry, depressed and frustrated with their words forgetting that we are human beings too and our feelings get hurt! Don’t fight it, God sees it and he will repay for you.

As he says in Isaiah 41:10-13 “Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy Lord: I will strengthen thee; yea I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness. Behold, all they that were incensed against thee shall be ashamed and confounded: and they shall be as nothing and they that strive with thee shall perish. Thou shalt seek them, and shalt not find them, even them that contended with thee; they that war against thee shall be as nothing as, and as a thing of nought. For I, the Lord thy God will hold thy right hand, saying unto, fear not; I will help thee.”

All those we fear, they will be nothing when we give our hearts and faith to the Lord who will do everything for us and we have nothing to fear! Let us learn to ask for help from God, let us call him as he is always there for us, he will never leave us to drawn. Mathew 7:7-8 “ask and it shall be given to you; seek, and ye shall find; knock and it shall be opened unto you. For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth, and he that knocketh it shall be opened.”

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Let us raise our heads high and receive the blessing from the Lord, our heavenly Father for he gives his blessing to the strongest soldiers. Arise for thy light is coming and the glory of the Lord is raised upon thee. And THIS TOO SHALL PASS. “What shall we then say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?

Everything that we go through will pass in time; everything has a beginning and an end. Everything has its seasons and so are the hard times and pain. Don’t let this pain break and change the person you are, learn from it, grow from it and allow it to transform you.

You are built to win, to shine, to be happy and live life to the fullest.

Here are some of my top 10 quotes to help you get through these tough times.

In the end, everything will be fine and if it is not, then it is not the end.

Remember that time when you said you wouldn’t get through that illness, sorrow, sadness and everything else but you came through it all? Yes, this time is no different! So, believe me, when I say Hold on, this too shall pass.

Until next time,
JS 🙂

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My Top 10 Quotes That Can Push You To Do Better | Motivation

August 29, 2017
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I just love quotes about everything 🙂 😉

Hey loves, thank you for stopping by. I believe you are having a productive week 🙂 Today I have something to share with that can push you to stay motivated. 🙂

If you are like me you will agree that sometimes quotes can express what we want to say better than ourselves. Quotes can motivate us and they can speak for us. Have you ever read a quote and said, “oh my God, this is what I am feeling right now” or “I needed to hear/read this today”?

Yes, it happens, we all need some motivation every now and then. Because we are human and we won’t be up to do something all the time even when we know how important that something is. So yes, some of us accomplish and live because of such kind of motivations and quotes.

As for me, I have some quotes that push me to do more, stay disciplined, motivated, inspired and committed. If you need some push today then allow me to share my top 10 quotes that push me every now and then:

  1. You can have results or excuses. Not both. Choose wisely

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2. The human spirit is like an elastic band. The more you stretch, the greater your capacity. Bidemi Mark-Mordi

 

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3. There are no limitations to the mind except those you acknowledge. Napoleon Hill

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4. Push yourself because no one is going to do it for you.

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5. You got this.

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6. Just one more time.

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7. Humans are creatures of habits. If you quit when things get tough, it gets that much easier to quit next time. If you force yourself to push through it, the grit begins to grow in you. Travis Bradberry

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8. Never set limits, go after your dreams, don’t be afraid to push the boundaries. And laugh a lot – It is good for you. Paula Radcliffe

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9. Television is like American toaster, you push the button and the same thing pops up every time. Alfred Hitchcock

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10. I don’t like to gamble, but if there is one thing I am willing to bet on, it is myself. Beyonce

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Work hard and stay humble

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Need some more motivation? Read here and here 🙂

So, there you have it. I hope these will motivate you to push yourself to be better and do better. What is your favorite quote? Share with me in the comments below.

Until next time

JS 🙂

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If I am going to die tomorrow | Motivation

August 16, 2017
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It was 1 am and I couldn’t sleep, perhaps I slept too early…I am not so sure, funny huh! You know what happens when you can’t sleep in a quite night, you can’t hear anything moving or any noises around (okay, I heard a dog from afar) but you know what I could hear loud and clear? My thoughts! Yap, you read that right!

So, I decided to observe my thoughts as they come and go, some of them made sense so I kept them in my mind for a while and those that didn’t I simply pushed them away and observed them as they fade. Then this strange thought hit me, I was tempted to let it pass but then I decided to see what my inner self had to say about it “if I am to die tomorrow”.

I asked myself if I could die a happy person, with a smile on my face that says “I lived”! well, as funny as it may sound I saw myself dying with anger, sadness and sorrow…my eyes were watery, I realized if I am to die tomorrow then I am going to die unsatisfied person, with a lot to regret!

Chances I didn’t take, things that I should have said but I kept my mouth shut, things that I shouldn’t have said but I did anyway… so I made a decision, if I am to die tomorrow then I am going to do the following today;

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Reconnecting With My Heart | Confession

July 26, 2017
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Hey loves 🙂 Thank you for stopping by. Today I will walk you through the process of reconnecting with my heart after neglecting her for quite sometime. Take a seat and let’s go 😉

I never realized how much I have been hurting you, how much you cried all this time I didn’t listen to you! Ever since you and I came to this world you have been there for me…

I remember when I was a child, you used to speak to me… you told me a lot of things like how my life would be when I grow up…how happy I would be with my life!

You told me nothing was impossible, you and I dreamed bigger dreams than ourselves and we both believed it was possible and you said I should just wait until I grow up, you said I wasn’t ready then…and I couldn’t wait to grow up and live our dreams!

You and I were happy until I grew up and the world told me something about life, something you never bothered to! The world gave me a different definition of life…a different definition of dreams….the world told me dreams were nothing but dreams! Can you imagine how disappointing that was?

And the worst of all I believed it and I forgot everything that you and I used to talk before the world interfered….I buried everything so deep that I couldn’t even remember that we used to be friends once!

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The world introduced me to fear, and guess what? Fear was generous enough to ask if he could stay with me for as long as I wanted….I couldn’t say no because he seemed so real then.

After I accepted him to stay with me, everything became impossible…he controlled everything that I wanted to do, whenever I asked if I could do this or that his only reply was “you can’t do that”! He discourage me, I couldn’t take myself to try anything!

As that wasn’t suffocating enough, he later introduced me to failure! Fear wedded failure while he was staying with me and then both had to stay with me! Can you imagine having to live with these two?

From there anything that you told me I could do (because you believed in my capabilities) I couldn’t give it a try! Well, we both know why, fear and failure were working together as a couple in my head; they had power over us because I allowed them to!

Read How happiness found me after I fell in love with myself.

You know it was a little easy when fear acted alone, but with both of them living in me hasn’t been easy! These two had me doubting myself, asking questions like am I good enough? Do I deserve this? Can I do this? And always I had the same answer to these questions; my answer was always ‘NO’

The first half of the year is gone; I am evaluating myself on my achievements so far! I break you again (my heart) after learning that I have accomplished less or nothing at all! Fear of failure took it all and left me with nothing but regrets!

There is always one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve; the fear of failure, Paulo Coelho.

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It’s only now that I have broken up with fear and failure that I realized you have been crying for help all this long but I couldn’t hear you nor see your tears! You cried about all the opportunities I didn’t take because of the fear of failure…places that I didn’t go and ideas that I buried because I didn’t have the courage to believe in myself and go for it…

It’s you and me again; I will listen to you no matter what! I believe you know it all! Yesterday you told me I am good enough, you told me I can do anything if only I believe in myself and be focused and persevere, you told me I deserve everything good…and the best part of it is that I believe every word you said…

We won’t lie to ourselves that it is going to be easy, we, like many other know how the world (people) can be so loud sometime…thinking it knows it all…we have to be bold enough to ignore it and believe completely in ourselves…

Until we do, the world’s voices will keep making decision for us…decisions that can only be right if we listen to ourselves, listen to our hearts!

Let your heart guide you…it whispers so listen closely. Walt Disney

JS 🙂

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Women Supporting Women | Breaking The Silence

July 16, 2017
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Hey loves, thank you for joining me on this talk today…. 🙂 How you all doing? Without any further due, get a seat and let’s get started… (Clearing my throat)

So I have been seating here by myself, doing nothing at all, yup that happens sometimes, and by that I mean many times when I am at home, alone. And just because I am home alone doesn’t mean I am lonely, nope! I truly enjoy solitude… I know I am not the only one.

Anyways enough about that, so while I am sitting here these questions just decided to come you know how they sometimes do yeah? Is it true we hate okay, hate is a strong word… let’s say is it true we don’t like each other? That we don’t like it when other women do well for themselves? Or when they look better than us? Let alone being prettier than us?

Anhaa, you probably don’t know where that came from, allow me… just the other day I was coming home, and I was in a bus. Seating there first seat just after the door, there was another woman seating next to me. And as you guessed we didn’t even say hi, hahaha funny yeah.

Traffic jam as usual in Dar, so there we are waiting for the green lights, myself looking out the window enjoying some guys playing cards I was being entertained free of charge and my smile didn’t hide itself.

Then when I returned my focus in the bus, there was a heated discussion. At first I didn’t know what it was all about then I paid attention. Guess what? It was about how much women don’t like each other! And in my mind I was like oh uh, here we go!

So, the 1st guy said: “when a woman sees another woman looking good she gets mad! It’s like she has done something very wrong, she will roll the eyes and in 5 seconds she hates her!”

Well, that is quite true if you do observe how women interact out there…more like some underground war going on but only in their minds and eyes.

The 2nd man on a reply to the 1st man: “man, women are something else… do you remember in 2015 when we had a woman running for president? Do you know how many votes she got? It was a shame! I am not sure what’s wrong with these creatures??

Look at Hillary Clinton, see what happened to her?? Women hate it when other women are climbing the ladder, trust me if they didn’t, one of these two women could have won” they don’t know the power they have if they come together!

Do you know what women in the bus said about that? Nothing! Not a single word, every woman was quite, not because we didn’t hear the guys talking but maybe because we knew they were right or we just didn’t feel like saying a thing at that moment… but I know deep down we were arguing with ourselves (at least I know I was).

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You see, I don’t deny these claims because somewhere in my tiny mind think there might some truth to this… how many times have you heard a woman going to the bank, hospital, or any service says “ooh I hope I will be served by a man, you know women can be arrogant, they don’t pay much attention and don’t let me start on their attitude!”

Ooh dear, have we really stopped to think about all this? Maybe the problem isn’t the other woman at the restaurant, or at the gym, maybe it is you! Remember that saying “things that we don’t like about others have a lot to do with things that we don’t like about ourselves”! See, that change we want can begin with us!

Consider having positive attitude towards other women, smile or nod to acknowledge the other person…stay positive and spread positivity… that positive attitude is contagious, it will reflect to everyone you meet, women or men!

After all been said and done, in this life none of us is getting out alive so we might as well choose to love each other. We are all women but that doesn’t make us the same and we don’t want the same thing out of life! Your dreams and aspiration are quite different from everyone else!

You want this, I want that, she wants this and that and that’s the beauty of life… and guess what? The universe has a lot to give and it is enough for everyone! Let’s choose love and support each other…together we can bring miracles in the world.

JS 🙂

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How I Find My Reading Time | Real Life Tips

July 15, 2017
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Hey loves, thank you for joining me on this talk today…. 🙂 How you all doing? Without any further due, get a seat and let’s get started… (Clearing my throat)

So, a confession… I like reading….I mean I love reading! Yeah, you want to know why? Simple I get to be in someone else’s mind for a while.

Like some 100 pages and sometimes 500 pages or 1000 (trying to make a point here):) so yeah, when I read I use some else’s mind, great minds I tell you.

And who wouldn’t want to know what other person is thinking and get a chance to judge them and see if their thoughts can be applied in their own lives?

Or if what they think works? You have to try it, and tell you won’t you have nothing to lose but rather you add other ways to do things and know which ones don’t work!
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I work full time as Digital Communications (I know, fancy right?) don’t be fooled with that title, I have to use this mind of mine to create content with 140 characters and make a point from a lot of pages of numbers and the like. So yeah, there is that and much more!

Having said that you know it can be pretty hard to find time to read, let alone to prepare dinner when I get home. You know, the temptations! My bed, YouTube (I can watch video after video, because I just can’t let go of a good video, in my defense though, am learning through videos) #LieDetected and sometimes the urge to scroll my Instagram feed is too strong.

So, here is how I find my reading time:

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1. I set reading goals
So, every day I have a reading goal to meet! My daily reading goal is that I must read at least 50 to 70 pages a day. No matter how busy I get on that day I must finish those mentioned pages.

How do I do that? I reward myself after am done. So, my mind is expecting something in return whenever it pays attention to my reading goal. In other word I trick my mind with a reward and that helps me to master it and hence reaching my daily goal.

2. Schedule my reading time
We all know nothing is possible without making aside time for it. You can’t say you will go for shopping without setting aside the time you will be going.

Reading is no different! Here is my reading schedule:

Soon after I get up:
So every morning after saying my prayers (we have to be grateful for the new day, at least I do) I set aside at least 20 minutes of my morning to reading.

On my way to work (or anywhere, really)
I use my commuting time to read, I don’t drive so yes I use that advantage to nourish my mind with someone else’s thoughts, how cool Is that? For those who drive (you thought you had an excuse, didn’t you?) there are a lot of audio books out there… so get yourself lot of those and switch of that funky music in your car and start listening to those audio books (simplest way to read more books just by listening, what more do you want?) and yes I listen to those as well… very helpful!

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Lunch break
I do have at least an hour break for lunch so, yes that is my reading time and it can be yours as well.

30-40 minutes before bed,
Yes this is a good time to keep your reading on a go.

So, notice how much time I find to get my reading going through the day? That sounds simple, right?

Nope! Wrong!

3. Commitment
For any of those goals and scheduling to work you must be committed to them! You must be disciplined enough to follow through. Ask yourself how important is reading to you, why do you read and why do you want to read? Once you are able to answer these questions, truthful then yeah, you will be committed.

I don’t leave home without any book in my handbag or earphones. Because these are my reading tools and they will remind me of my goal the whole day. So be sure to do the same.

So, enough with excuses, you can adopt my ways and am sure they will work for because they are working pretty well for me. You might have your tips on how you find time to read, share with me in the comment!

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Shake it off and get up | Awaken the child in you

July 7, 2017
awaken the child in you

I like walking around home sometimes over the weekend, just to observe and see what is or not happening, what has changed for the whole week I have been busy; this helps me feel connected to my neighborhood.

As I was walking the other weekend, a lot of kids were playing around, having fun laughing together genuinely not like the laughter many adults have to pretend to be happy.

I spent lots of minutes enjoying myself as they enjoyed themselves. It was really calming to watch them and laugh or smile as they did.

A lot was going on there, the two kids got into a small fight (I wouldn’t call that much of a fight, but that’s what they called it) the other kid cried for two minutes or so, then the other kid went to her “come back, let’s play, I won’t beat you again, I promise”.

The other kid tried to say no and she was mad, but she wanted to play so she said, “if you beat me again I am going to tell on you”… in a blink, they were both back into playing and laughing together like nothing happened a couple of minutes ago!

That right there made me smile!

They continued to play and having fun together and I was having fun on my own as I watched theme play….
It was really refreshing to see how peaceful they were; they made me jealous at some point because they were too happy… khaaa….

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Then one of the kids fell when she was running to catch the other kid, well she fell real hard. I was scared for him; I stood up in shock I thought he injured himself.

On the other hand, the kids laughed as they went to check on him see if he was okay!

He didn’t cry, not a single tear came out of him… he shook off the dust on his clothes, they asked if he was okay, he said he was, they laughed about it and they went on with their business!

Well, I sat again trying to process all that! As much as I had fun watching them I had a dose of lessons as well!
Children are truly different from people who call themselves adults!

We take this life way too serious… we have forgotten the meaning of enjoying life as we live; we have forgotten how to have fun and appreciate the company of other people around us!

We hold grudges more than we can afford to carry with us!

Do you remember how many people you don’t talk to because you had an argument in 1999 and you find it hard to let go? I am not sure if that other person recalls that stupid argument you had ages ago!

He moved on with his life and he is enjoying it somewhere out there while you are being miserable here because you couldn’t let go of that grudge you hold!

It is eating you really hard you can’t even appreciate your life and the beautiful people around you! Tell you what, it is time to leave your misery behind, let go and start living! Be like children, live like them!

You can’t avoid getting into an argument your whole life but you can learn to let go and forgive as faster as you can, it is the only way you are going to have peace of mind not all the time but not as much as when you live in misery!

Life gets tougher sometimes, it kicks you in your stomach… hurts like hell and you fall really hard and you see no point of getting back up again!

Well, it happens to many of us, if not all us! We sometimes decide to stay down because we are sure we won’t fall again if we stay right where we fell. We don’t even give a try to get up!

We just complain right where we fell, talk about how life kicked us and how we are not going to get up again!
Well, that’s okay if you want to stay there for the rest of your life…

But where is the fun in life if it is not in falling and getting back up again, falling again and getting back up again until you learn and master how to stand tall and strong?

awaken the child in you

You have to understand that you will fall sometimes and the best way to do it is do it like children, fall down get back up again faster and stronger than you fell!

Keep going and believe in every possibility in life!

There is so much that children do better than we do, we might as well learn from them and enjoy life as we continue to live and reaching for the things we want life.

Let’s embrace the inner child in us, we all have one because we were once children and we will always be. Let’s be childlike and live life to the fullest.

JS 🙂

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“Be yourself” The world has too many of them already!

June 30, 2017
be yourself - “Be yourself” The world has too many of them already!

“Be yourself” this is one of the most free given advice around. You tell your mom; am so scared I don’t know if am going to be able to do this or your significant other or anyone for that matter and all of them will give you the same advice “be yourself”

Self means who you really are and what you think you are, especially the feeling of being separate and different from other people.

Knowing yourself is very important for everything that you do and what you are about to do. This will help you gain self-confidence because you believe in whatever you do.

In life you cannot achieve anything if you are not aware of your strength and your weaknesses. This may only be achieved by knowing yourself.

Why can’t you achieve whatever you want in life if you have full knowledge of who you really are? You know pretty well what you can do better and what you cannot. What you are good at May only be achieved if you are aware of who you really are and the meaning of you of being yourself.

Being knowledgeable of yourself may definitely help you correct whatever mistakes that you made. You may only correct them by accepting them and learning from them. Make up your mind and believe in yourself that you are willing to change by accepting your faults and who you really are.

Everybody in this life has got his/her faults either failing yourself in exams, at work, in relationship or elsewhere! All these mistakes do not define who you are, you are the person whom you choose to be after owning your mistakes.

The question is how would you figure that if you don’t really know who you are? Know yourself, own your mistakes and learn from them this will help you to achieve your goals in life because no one will do it better as you do.

There are so many things that may be achieved only if you know yourself! Well, think about happiness! Happiness includes being yourself.

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Be proud of who you are! Don’t even think of being someone that you are not just to fit in a certain group of people. You know you are better when you are true to yourself.

Many people are trying harder to impress other people than impressing themselves. How can you be happy if you are doing it for others? Trust me, if you keep on doing this then you should omit word happiness in your life.

Dreams, desires in life will only be achieved if you stand for it, believe me! How will you stand for them if you are not even if sure if that is what you really want in life? Now you can agree with me that knowing yourself is quite important in life.

Stand for those dreams and desires even when others are against it because that is what makes you who you are. Appreciate yourself and others will do the same.

Mind you, you can’t just wake up in the morning and change the way you act suddenly! No, this needs time to achieve it! You have to start by making an intention of who you really want to be.

Ask yourself about your current life, is it how you really want to be? If not then where did you go astray and where should you correct and why should you do that?

Remember, you are the best person ever happened to be in this world. Because no one will be you, no matter how much they try to be! You are born to be who you are. Nobody can do it better as you do!

Believe in yourself and everyone will surely do the same thing! Be your own hero, challenge yourself to be a better person in every way.

You only win when you are true to who you are. Be yourself, the world has so much of them already!

JS 🙂