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When They Have a Change of Heart

October 21, 2017
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Hey loves 🙂 howdy?

So, a few years back someone had a change of heart on me, well, maybe not someone maybe it was someones. And maybe I had a change of heart to some people along the way too.

We all have a change of heart sometimes, we lose friends, we lose people we thought we loved and you can be ok with all these. But it gets tricky when you are emotionally invested…it hurts so bad! 🙁

So, when that someone had a change of heart I was frustrated, I seriously was. Yes, I was emotionally invested! I turned into a crybaby. I couldn’t take it, I felt betrayed, like what are you talking about? It left me with a lot of “what the efs??” What do you mean you have lost interest??

Not like I wasn’t aware that hearts could change sometimes because I should know they do, I am an expert at changing my heart from time to time like for my shoes, flowers I liked, things I liked to do, movies I thought I liked or food I once was deeply in love with.

But you see, when someone else changes their hearts on you, it gives you some sort of rhetorical questions. The list may start from the time you open your eyes in the morning assuming you managed to get some sleep the night before (I am trying to be optimistic). Questions go like; So, I wasn’t good enough for him/her? S/he didn’t love me after all?? Was I his/her rebound?? So, all the good moments we had together meant nothing to him/her?? All the promises and plans were all lies?

These questions don’t stop; they will keep floating your mind all day long! What about the tears? Ooh, don’t let me get started with that! They will wet your eyes whenever they see you are alone (at least they respect you when other people are around, otherwise it could have been worse)!

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Trust me. Sometimes you even ask yourself “why am I crying”? You cry so much that you forget why the hell you were crying in the first place so you stop for a couple of minutes and then it hit you again “s/he had a change of heart on me” then you remember your why then the crying starts again! Yup, that bad!

But we forget one thing the heart can change sometimes, or many times, we are talking about heart here, remember?! It has no time to think, ask some tough questions… all it does is to want what it wants and it might kill you sometimes if you let it be on its own without featuring your brain into her decisions!

Just like you accept it when your heart changes throughout your life about your wants, hobbies, friends, that person you thought you loved more than anything and everything else and that’s how you should accept it when people change their hearts on you.

People may change and leave, accept the change of their hearts, embrace it. Life is still beautiful and the sky still exists, the sun still rises from East and sets West.

Everything will stay the same or better, the only difference is that they will not be there to witness the beauty of life without them in it.

It is not about you, it is about them! And maybe it is about you. But People come and go they will leave you alone whenever they decide to leave and that’s okay. You will always be on your own with your soul and your God.


There is someone who will come and decide they want to stay forever (I hope forever does exist, really do). They will choose to be there with you, they will choose to love you for who you are, they will be there to hold your hand and tell you it is going to be okay.

They will value and respect you enough, to be honest with you, they will choose to love you every day and they will feel lucky to have you. They will walk with you through hard times they won’t run when things get tough. After all, everything we do is a choice and love is no different!

And when that happens, be sure to be present, let go of your past, be happy, and love like you have never been hurt. Cherish that person, make new memories together and enjoy the beauty of life.

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Until then, love yourself enough to believe that you are good enough and you will always be, be happy, treat yourself well, smile and live. Find some goods in the goodbye. It might be the best thing ever happened to you!

Just remember that everybody has a somebody out there, you just have to believe!

Until next time,

Jane 🙂

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  • Reply Thena October 26, 2017 at 11:59 am

    Great post. Always remember to love yourself and be true to you. <3 Treat your heart and your mind well, and you will be happy!

  • Reply Princy Khurana October 26, 2017 at 7:40 am

    thank you for the inspiration. yes, its true that we are enough, many times we forget the same. this is a great reminder to all!

  • Reply Elise October 25, 2017 at 9:47 pm

    What a lovely, warm and encouraging post. Your words will reach those who need them today. You should feel good about that.

  • Reply Deryn | Running on Real Food October 25, 2017 at 8:38 pm

    So important to love yourself first, isn’t it? Great message, thank you for sharing your thoughts on this!

  • Reply maggie October 25, 2017 at 4:37 pm

    Thanks for sharingโค๏ธ
    Sometimes people just grow apart.

  • Reply Kiersten October 25, 2017 at 1:33 pm

    This was so inspirational!! Your writing just puts me in a better mood! Thanks for taking the time to write such a heartfelt post!!

  • Reply Prima October 25, 2017 at 12:55 pm

    Hello Jane. This was such an inspiring post to start my morning with. In case nobody told you today let me tell you that you are awesome! ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

  • Reply Chrissy October 25, 2017 at 7:35 am

    This is such an inspiring post. It’s definitely important to know your worth, especially since people do come and go.

  • Reply Melisa Popanicic October 25, 2017 at 6:17 am

    Life will find it’s way and so will we. Sometimes it’s just hard to remember that but I’m glad you did this post. It’s very uplifting, reminding us to just be us.

  • Reply Cissy October 25, 2017 at 5:53 am

    Awwww… this is such an inspirational post, take heart my dear. Thank you for sharing such a wonderfully written article

  • Reply Style & Life by Susana October 25, 2017 at 3:26 am

    I wish there was something like this around many years ago when it happened to me. Its so inspiring and you should be so proud of yourself – this will help so many. X

  • Reply Nina October 24, 2017 at 9:54 pm

    We definitely need to remember that it’s about them and not you. I try to remind myself of this all the time. The only thing you can do is live true to yourself and be the best person you can be.

  • Reply Sheree October 24, 2017 at 6:47 pm

    This is such an inspirational post. It is very important to always remember that in the end you cannot always change the opinions of others. Unfortunately sometimes people are not meant to be friends, and it can be very hard to accept that. I’m glad that you’ve found light in this situation and decided to share your story.

    ~xo Sheree

  • Reply Katya October 24, 2017 at 4:55 pm

    This is really an inspiration. I agree that you get to leave or lose people along the way. But that would only mean there could be more amazing people who you will meet throughout the way as well.

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  • Reply JM Kayne October 24, 2017 at 1:18 pm

    You always create positive messages Jane! This topic is something that not many people talk about… A challenge many of us faced but probably don’t know how to handle… in fact lately getting back into our sense when things like this happen is a phase of our life when we seriously need people, positive people to lift us up!

    Great one!

    God bless

    JM Kayne | #InMyHeartย โ™ฅ

  • Reply Candace October 24, 2017 at 12:07 pm

    I wish I could’ve read this post when I was in college. It would have helped save me so much heartache. I am so proud of you for being so strong. You will find that perfect one, who fully appreciates you for you! Never settle for less ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Reply Stephanie October 24, 2017 at 1:47 am

    This is such a positive message. What a great way for me to start the week. We really do need to make the most of our lives.

  • Reply Candy October 23, 2017 at 10:53 pm

    This is a topic that I wish more people would talk about. It’s strange when a change of heart happens when it’s least expected. Maybe strange isn’t the right word, but it is a difficult matter to digest at once. I’ve had it happen to me and vice versa.

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