Remember when I told you guys that I was going to review this book How to be Bawse ages ago here? Yes, I remember that as well.
But guess what life has been throwing me too many punches lately 🙁 and I have been working so hard to make sure I survive, good God I am happy to say life and I are getting in good terms. We are back in our happy relationship again. Yey us 🙂
Anyway, so I had so much fun reading this book! It is so hilarious and so much to enjoy and learn. There are a lot of quotes on each chapter which I loved the most I could simply save them on my phone. Yes, I bought the book on Kindle.
As I said here, this book is a story of her life, her journey to getting where she is. This book doesn’t give you some wishful ideas towards success. This book gives you some guidance on what you can do to get where you want in your life. She gives examples of her struggles and how she conquered them.
So, I will share with you some of my best chapters, mind you there are 50 chapters! So, to read all of them you have to go buy this book here. Support a sister and invest in yourself!
Don’t be made don’t be broken
Success should not be built on a single line, it should be under different pillars. So when one pillar doesn’t hold then there are a number of them holding you!
If one opportunity will make or break your success, then your idea of success is not sold enough, to begin with. You can’t bank your entire success on one achievement. Your success shouldn’t walk on stilts.
You need to strengthen your foundation!
Have fewer emotions
Lilly might know me enough to write the whole chapter just for me. Yes, I am that emotional! Not that emotions are bad, they are pretty good when shown at the right place with good reasons. And by the way, they say when you control your emotions you are more likely to control how you act and react.
When you need to get your hustles on, be driven by goals, not emotions. Yes, this! Lilly encourages that we train our brain to focus less on our feelings and more on productivity when things need to get done.
I totally agree with her, when we focus on how we feel we might end up spending the day doing nothing because our feelings are all over the place and you don’t feel like doing anything.
Make every struggle count and remember that experience will always be a silver lining. When it comes to getting work done and having the opportunity to learn lessons, don’t let your emotions rob you.
The more people know about you, the weaker you become. Well, that doesn’t need me to go into details. So, I am going to leave it at that.
Disclaimer: this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t trust people, you should but you must be selectively secretive. Have your person like Christina and Meredith (Grey’s Anatomy reference). A person that you can be open to, the person who understands you and is trustworthy.
“Don’t give away all your secrets or reveal all your vulnerabilities…it is up to you to decide what to reveal and when.”
Your EX was not right for you
When Lilly says EX, she doesn’t necessarily mean your boyfriend/girlfriend who for some reasons things didn’t go as planned – which may or may not be your fault or the other way around.
Well, if things ended then they were not right for you, end of story.
There are two kinds of people; those who understand that things might not go as they hoped, the accept it and move on. But then there are those other people who do not accept! They will cry about the same thing for ages.
That job that didn’t work out, that friend who left, that project that for some reasons failed even though you gave everything you had for it or anything that didn’t work out. Feel sad for some time because we all know how it hurts to lose something you have given everything you had, you invested so much on it but it just didn’t work!
Cry if you need to when you allow yourself to grieve you are allowing yourself to release that horrible pain. But don’t take forever, life is not pausing itself to wait for you.
Don’t let the person that left you, a job that didn’t work out for you, and project that failed define what it means to love and to be with someone, to find and have a job and to start a new project. They were not right for you!
Call yourself out
Be ready to admit when you are wrong when you make mistakes and take responsibility stop looking for some else to blame for your mistakes. Own your mistakes, call yourself out, find solutions and communicate and apologize effectively and be sure not to do the same mistake again, because then that will be a stupid choice!
Mistakes don’t exist to make us feel bad about ourselves; they are opportunities to learn and improve ourselves.
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Be in love
Be in love with yourself! Well, falling in love with yourself might be the hardest thing but it is worth it, it is worth all the efforts! You know the feeling you have when you love someone? You want them to be happy, you want them to accept you and be there for you.
Okay just forget about that person (I am saying that to make a point not to tell you to forget that person) start doing all that for you and see how things changes, and yes that person will thank you for that because you will be in a better position to love them well.
When you love yourself you won’t be too hard on yourself, you will encourage yourself and you will be patient with yourself.
Like any other relationship, the one you have with yourself takes time and effort.
Well, you can’t expect yourself to be inspired to do what have to do every time even if you love what you do! There is just that time your mind cant process and it needs some inspo, yap! I enjoy writing, I mean I love it, but tell you what, this post took me longer than it should have to get it to you simply because life can be tougher on us than we would like to be!
To make the inspo going, Lilly suggests putting something you enjoy in your to-do list of the day. But be sure to make that thing at the very end of your to-do list so you will have something to enjoy waiting for you after you are done with every other important thing in your list.
Now I have an episode of Grey’s Anatomy at the very end of the to-do list or a YouTube video of my favorite YouTuber and I am happy to say it is working out pretty well for me!
Inspiration is the fuel for your hustle.
Climb the ladder
I will keep this simple; you can’t stay at the same place all your life. You have to move from being a junior officer or to being a CEO or go all the way to owning that whole thing, wouldn’t that be epic?
So yes, climb the ladder. To get to somewhere high in life you have to be ready to handle the obstacles, haters and every other opposition. And remember no matter how high you climb there will always be someone higher than you!
Climb as many ladders as you can.
Protect your vision
Recognize that your idea is your baby and if you parent it well, it will grow up to be a wonderful event, product, blog. Your baby can change the world but first, you must make a promise to protect it.
I am going to end here, get this book! It is so much fun to read especially if you have been watching her videos. For me, reading this book was like watching her speak to me but so many lessons with so much laughter along the way.
I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who is tired of surviving and they want to do some conquering. It is a simple read but a much-needed one!
Any recommendation on what I should read next? Let’s talk in the comments below or we can move the conversation on social media!
Until next time,
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