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Women Supporting Women | Breaking The Silence

July 16, 2017

Hey loves, thank you for joining me on this talk today…. 🙂 How you all doing? Without any further due, get a seat and let’s get started… (Clearing my throat)

So I have been seating here by myself, doing nothing at all, yup that happens sometimes, and by that I mean many times when I am at home, alone. And just because I am home alone doesn’t mean I am lonely, nope! I truly enjoy solitude… I know I am not the only one.

Anyways enough about that, so while I am sitting here these questions just decided to come you know how they sometimes do yeah? Is it true we hate okay, hate is a strong word… let’s say is it true we don’t like each other? That we don’t like it when other women do well for themselves? Or when they look better than us? Let alone being prettier than us?

Anhaa, you probably don’t know where that came from, allow me… just the other day I was coming home, and I was in a bus. Seating there first seat just after the door, there was another woman seating next to me. And as you guessed we didn’t even say hi, hahaha funny yeah.

Traffic jam as usual in Dar, so there we are waiting for the green lights, myself looking out the window enjoying some guys playing cards I was being entertained free of charge and my smile didn’t hide itself.

Then when I returned my focus in the bus, there was a heated discussion. At first I didn’t know what it was all about then I paid attention. Guess what? It was about how much women don’t like each other! And in my mind I was like oh uh, here we go!

So, the 1st guy said: “when a woman sees another woman looking good she gets mad! It’s like she has done something very wrong, she will roll the eyes and in 5 seconds she hates her!”

Well, that is quite true if you do observe how women interact out there…more like some underground war going on but only in their minds and eyes.

The 2nd man on a reply to the 1st man: “man, women are something else… do you remember in 2015 when we had a woman running for president? Do you know how many votes she got? It was a shame! I am not sure what’s wrong with these creatures??

Look at Hillary Clinton, see what happened to her?? Women hate it when other women are climbing the ladder, trust me if they didn’t, one of these two women could have won” they don’t know the power they have if they come together!

Do you know what women in the bus said about that? Nothing! Not a single word, every woman was quite, not because we didn’t hear the guys talking but maybe because we knew they were right or we just didn’t feel like saying a thing at that moment… but I know deep down we were arguing with ourselves (at least I know I was).


You see, I don’t deny these claims because somewhere in my tiny mind think there might some truth to this… how many times have you heard a woman going to the bank, hospital, or any service says “ooh I hope I will be served by a man, you know women can be arrogant, they don’t pay much attention and don’t let me start on their attitude!”

Ooh dear, have we really stopped to think about all this? Maybe the problem isn’t the other woman at the restaurant, or at the gym, maybe it is you! Remember that saying “things that we don’t like about others have a lot to do with things that we don’t like about ourselves”! See, that change we want can begin with us!

Consider having positive attitude towards other women, smile or nod to acknowledge the other person…stay positive and spread positivity… that positive attitude is contagious, it will reflect to everyone you meet, women or men!

After all been said and done, in this life none of us is getting out alive so we might as well choose to love each other. We are all women but that doesn’t make us the same and we don’t want the same thing out of life! Your dreams and aspiration are quite different from everyone else!

You want this, I want that, she wants this and that and that’s the beauty of life… and guess what? The universe has a lot to give and it is enough for everyone! Let’s choose love and support each other…together we can bring miracles in the world.

JS 🙂

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  • Reply Bushra August 23, 2017 at 5:13 am

    Really Amazing Article….It is really important for us to support each other.

  • Reply Irina July 19, 2017 at 8:03 pm

    This is an interesting post, dear! Have a great day:)

    • Jane
      Reply Jane July 21, 2017 at 7:07 am

      Thank you for reading, Irina ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Reply Elegant Duchess July 18, 2017 at 7:29 pm

    Great post however I must be in a minority as I don’t have any negative feelings towards other women and on contrary I admire beauty and girls that are strong and powerful ! But I have come across lots of unjustified hatred towards myself from women that don’t even know me so I do agree that there is a lot of hatred out there. I just think life is too short for hating others , I’d rather direct my energy towards something more constructive in my life and smile, smile, smile

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    • Jane
      Reply Jane July 21, 2017 at 7:06 am

      I agree with you.. there are few women who genuinely want to see other women succeed in life. I think it is about we all understand that we are not here to compete but rather to love and support each other. Thank you for stopping by ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Reply Amna Tariq Shah July 17, 2017 at 1:35 pm

    Hehe this was really amusing ๐Ÿ˜€ women get angry to see other women looking good !!! LOL Loved the post !!! Positive attitude could bring a good change in the society – we have our differences, it is natural, but we should always hold on to positivity and kindness. Well written !!

    • Jane
      Reply Jane July 17, 2017 at 2:09 pm

      Amna we are something else sometimes ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ˜‰ we should embrace our differences while supporting others. We need to empower ourselves. Thank you for reading. Hope you find something else around the blog to cheer you up.

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