Option A is not available. So let’s just kick the shit out of Option B., after all, we all live in some kind of option B.
Hey dearies 🙂 how are you today? As always, thank you for stopping by, I hope you had a very good weekend. Do you guys have any big plans for this week?
So, you guys know how much I love reading books, I mean who doesn’t? You know there is no friend as loyal as a book, okay, I didn’t say that but Ernest Hemingway did and I believe that.
Books cannot tell you they don’t have time to talk to you or they are too busy to talk, they are just there and it is on you to just decide to pick them and be like, ‘you know what? We need to talk’. Okay, that sounded pretty cool in my mind until I wrote it, but I am going to leave it there for the sake of making my point.
In October I was reading men are from Mars, women are from Venus, which I got from a friend of mine and I enjoyed it. So much to learn about the differences that men and women have and how they can complement each other. I might do a short review of it maybe next week.
In September I read a couple of books as well, I will post a review as well and you can read my August book review: How to be a bawse by Lilly Singh here.
And this November as I mentioned I am reading option B by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant. Sheryl is the COO of Facebook, I know, so cool! She is also the writer of Lean In, which I have heard a lot of good things about and I will be reading it in December and share it here as always.
So, options B is one of those books that you don’t want to put down once you start reading it. It is a book where Sheryl is telling a story about her husband who sadly died and left her with her two children to figure out how to live without him.
Option B is a book about facing diversity, building resilience and finding joy.
We human lose hope when the very person/thing that we wanted, needed, loved is gone. We believe that there is nothing else left for us live for and be happy about. We forget that if there was an option A then option B must be somewhere and we just have to look hard and be ready to find it.
This book was born when a friend told Sheryl that, “Option A is not available. So let’s just kick the shit out of option B.” The mission to kick the hell out of loss, grief, and everything that come with all that.
Sheryl says that there is always an opportunity for post-traumatic growth, that we have a chance to grow and be strong after a trauma when we allow ourselves to push forward without allowing the grief to go down with us.
There are three important Ps that is explained in this book that I found to be very relatable to many people who are grieving. Blaming ourselves (personalization), believing that every part of our lives have been changed (pervasiveness) or believing that nothing will ever get better (permanence).
We have to believe that not everything that has happened was/is our faults. Sometimes things happen and there’s so little we can do about but rather we can learn from them, we can be grateful that we get to change some few things that they won’t happen again to you or to others. You can find ways to breathe again and keep going and believing that your presence has a reason and make the most of it.
Don’t be afraid to talk about the elephant in the room. Once we acknowledge it there is more chance of finding ways to deal with it. Ask a friend how they are feeling on that particular day instead of using the usual how are you. Be present for the grieving person, showing that you genuinely care about how they feel makes it easy for them to open up and ease some pain.
This book is very raw, it has inspiring stories of how people raise from grieve to become stronger and a reason for other people to smile. It is a must-read book which will help you with your grief and will help you help others to get through their grief.
My favorite quotes
Option A is not available. So let’s just kick the shit out of Option B.
Let me fall if I must fall. The one I become will catch me.
When life gives you lemons, I won’t tell you a story about a cousin who died of lemons.
In some way, suffering ceases to be suffering at moments it finds a meaning.
How we spend our days is how we spend our lives
You must go on, I can’t go on, I will go on.
Each one of us is more than the worst thing we’ve ever done
We are stronger and more resilient than we think.
Avoiding feelings isn’t the same as protecting feelings.
If you can put your hands on this book, you won’t regret it. There is so much to learn from the stories and experiences shared by different people. You might not be grieving now but you can help someone else get through their hard times and they will thank you for it.
That’s all I have for you today, I hope you enjoy your week, make the best of it and remember how you spend your day is how you spend your life.
Until next time, let’s keep kicking the shit out of option Bs.