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Don’t let the “I am too busy” get into your relationships

July 11, 2017

It is funny how busy everyone is these days! Yes, we will all agree that the world is really busy and everyone is trying to catch up with the pace and forgetting all those that matter in our lives!

A person takes off to work at 7am and gets back around 8pm if not 10pm! The whole day spends behind his/her desk with full of files piled up on the desk, (or on the field, or wherever you work) well for that matter we would say at least this person has an excuse to make when he/she doesn’t check on to those who care for them!

But well, who would keep up with your excuses of having a lot to do in your life to the point that you can’t dedicate even a single minute to someone that you claim to love? They say if a person really loves you then they will make time for you!
“…. “too busy” is a myth…people make time for things that are too important to them”.

You don’t have time for social life at all; all you know is your job or your projects! And you think that’s all you need in life? Well, sorry to disappoint you, but you are very wrong! What is the point of working really hard and not having time to celebrate it with those who matter to you? I don’t really see the point here.

A lot is happening to our relationships and we keep wondering where we did wrong? Why is this happening? Marriages are ending, the boyfriend and girlfriend relations are the worst (this is not the only reason, but it is one of them) you can’t even remember the last time you met your boyfriend for dinner…and if you are married then you can’t recall the last time you two had a date!

And if you are blessed with kids, all that your kids know is mom is at work, dad went for business trip. He spends his time with the baby sitter and you expect that child to have a good relationship with you? I don’t think so!

You don’t spend quality time together, he has a lot to tell you but you are not there. In the end you don’t understand the character of child and you are wondering what you did wrong? I will tell you, you never had time for him!

The best expression of love is time, be there! Be there for your children, be there for your husband/wife; be there for your parents, be there for your spouse, be there for your friends and most important be there for yourself!

Remember time is the best gift you can offer the people that you love (you included)!

Relationships are what make us, we need people in our lives! Tell them you love and care about them before it is too late to express it.


Tomorrow is never promised to anyone, work hard for yourself but don’t forget your relationships, they are important too!

I personally think it is about time we rethink our priorities in our lives and make sound decisions not just for the sake of now, let us consider the future as well in our decisions! Besides, nobody is ever too busy, it is a matter of priorities.

Don’t be that person with only one excuse for everything he couldn’t do! The “I have been too busy excuse”! It’s not bad to be busy, but what are you doing with your “am too busy”?

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  • Reply David Meldrum July 19, 2017 at 3:41 pm

    I love this article! I absolutely agree that people who love each other need to make time to spend with each other regardless how busy they are, make time! I also agree that there is soo much more to life than just work, work, work!

  • Reply Elena July 19, 2017 at 1:14 pm

    Gosh I needed this. I am so occupied with my job so I lost contact with so many friends. I have to work on that.

    • Jane
      Reply Jane July 19, 2017 at 1:20 pm

      Am glad this reminded you… Thank you for stopping by, Elena

  • Reply Thomas Sanderson July 19, 2017 at 5:52 am

    What a beautifully written piece of work, thank you for reminding people that they need to make time for those who care for them. I’ve heard many times that people cant be together because they are too busy yet sit and watch series after series. The ones you love or could love need to be higher on the priority list. Thanks for the post.

    • Jane
      Reply Jane July 19, 2017 at 6:55 am

      Thank you so much for reading, Thomas. I agree, it is about time people define their priorities.

  • Reply Rose Kehinde July 18, 2017 at 11:44 am

    Great reminder that making time for the important things in life is a must. “I’m busy” just doesn’t cut it always. Thanks!!!

    • Jane
      Reply Jane July 18, 2017 at 12:00 pm

      “I am busy” is overrated, thanks for stopping by Rose

  • Reply Jen July 18, 2017 at 10:59 am

    We lived in Switzerland for three years. Life/work balance was sooo much better there. The US is an exhausting place to raise a family with the work demands. My own husband’s works 12-14 hour days. Hard when you know there’s a better way but the culture doesn’t support it

    • Jane
      Reply Jane July 18, 2017 at 11:13 am

      Yes, Jen, you are right.. It gets really hard to balance the two (work/family), but i think when we recognize the importance of both and make some boundaries then we will be able to balance them and enjoy.

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